![]() ![]() In romance, the narcissist is often more enamored with the seduction process than he or she is with you, for you represent a “conquest” to them. Sweet talk is a form of emotional manipulation calculated to seduce and exploit. In reality, the narcissist wants you to feel special not because they really care about you, but because they want something from you. In interpersonal and/or romantic relationships, narcissists are often quick to profess their admiration of and attraction for you, usually without bothering to really know you as a person. Narcissists have the ability to be charming and charismatic when they choose.(13) Like a master salesperson, they know how to say the right things to entice your attention, and steer you into believing their sugar-coated persuasions. ![]() “I’m Here for You / I Care About You / I Love You!” You should have called to make sure it wasn’t misfiled.”Ħ. “It’s not our fault that we misplaced your check. All of the manipulative devices above serve to shift scrutiny and responsibility away from the narcissist, so that her or his weaknesses, deficiencies, and failings can remain hidden.(3)(12) Finally, the narcissist may make herself out to be the victim, pointing to any number of difficulties and hard-luck struggles which prevented her from being accountable, and ask for leniency (again being an exception to the rule). Another common response is making excuses - there is always some unexpected or unforeseen circumstance which deterred the narcissist from being responsible. Oftentimes, the narcissist will blame their victims for having caused their own victimization. When this occurs, one of the most common responses of the narcissist is to point fingers, and shift responsibility to others. Inevitably, the self-absorbed and manipulative machinations of a chronic narcissist will catch up with her or him, and land the narcissist in hot water. “Rules are meant to be broken – that’s how you WIN.”ĥ. “I take pride in persuading people to give me exceptions to their rules.” From their self-absorbed perspective, they deserve the privilege of being catered to, and other people’s thoughts and feeling are irrelevant.(5)(9)Ī Compassionate Partner's Guide to Narcissism In the mind-set of some narcissists, they are gods and goddesses, and the world revolves around them. Their barely disguised (or nakedly undisguised) intolerance of “inferiors” is revealed through judgments, criticisms, smugness, sarcasm, marginalization, stereotypes, and overall high condescension. The Mayo Clinic identifies “believing that you are superior” and “expecting to be recognized as superior” as two prominent characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder.(8) In daily interactions, narcissists take satisfaction in reminding you and others that they’re better in large and small ways. Related to the trait of grandiosity is superiority. “It’s not easy being superior to everyone I know.” “I’m Better Than You / I’m Better Than Them!” “What my mother displays in public and how she really is are very different.”Ģ. ![]()
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